- Worry myth #1: "I have a lot of good reasons to worry." Most worries are 'what-ifs' like, "What if it snows and nobody comes to the party?" And since those worries are usually based on past disappointments, they can make you overestimate the likelihood that something will go wrong today. So, instead of saying, "What if we never have enough money to buy a house." Say, "My guess is we might never have enough money to buy a house." It makes you realize that what you're saying isn't a fact it's just a possibility that can be changed.
- Then, worry myth #2: "Worrying keeps me from failing." But not making mistakes means you're not trying new things, either. Instead, think of failure as a sign of progress. And think about your past successes, along with the failures that led to them. For example, you got the job you always wanted. But it was because you failed to get hired somewhere else.
- And the final worry myth: "If this happens, I won't survive." For example, you're afraid you're going to be laid off. So, instead of trying to ignore the fears that stress you out day and night, try this: Visualize yourself getting fired. Right down to the look on your boss's face, and your crying jag, and then notice how your world doesn't cave in. Once you discover that you can survive the emotional impact of the worst-case scenario, your worries will lose their power over you and you'll realize, "Hey I can survive anything!"
If you want to get rid of your worries and be happier, listen up! Here are several common myths about worries, and how to cut them down to size. These tips come from Dr. Robert L. Leahy, author of The Worry Cure: