Saying “I’m sorry” when you slam someone’s fingers in a door is a good idea. Ladies – apologizing for every little thing isn’t something you should be doing. Dr. Noelle Nelson is a clinical psychologist and author of the book The Power of Appreciation, and she says women are typically taught that they’re supposed to make sacrifices and be nice. Which means it’s normal for you to feel like you should apologize for spoiling yourself, or speaking your mind, but there is absolutely NOTHING for you to be sorry about. In fact, here are a few things you should never apologize for:
- Telling a close friend that you don’t like her outfit, her boyfriend or her haircut after she insists that you give her your honest opinion. If she can’t handle the truth, she shouldn’t be asking in the first place. Giving your friend an honest opinion will do her more good than if you were to go on deceiving her about your true feelings.
- Don’t apologize for being thin. Whether you’ve been blessed with good genes or you spend a lot of time at the gym, you should never apologize for your figure. A lot of women who feel self-conscious about their own bodies give “backhanded compliments” to their skinny friends and coworkers, like “You’re so tiny! You need to eat more” or “Go ahead and have a donut - YOU can afford it.” What they’re really saying is “I want you to gain weight so I’ll feel better about my own body.” The next time someone comments on your nice figure, don’t feel guilty and tell them you’re flabbier than you look. Simply smile and say “thank you.” On the flip side, never apologize for being OVER weight, either. Some people just can’t lose that last 20 pounds, no matter how hard they try.
- Telling your hair stylist, your massage therapist or that stranger on the plane that you just don’t feel like carrying on a conversation. If you need some good ol’ fashioned peace and quite, it’s okay NOT to be social.