We all get into awkward situations. Turning down a friend’s pass, defending our work to a critical boss - it’s hard to find the right words in times like these. So, here’s how to handle some of those “mortifying moments.” This comes from Psychology Today.
- A friend at the office asks if you’d like to go on a date – but you’re just not interested. This is awkward because rejection not only hurts a person, but it puts you on unequal terms. When you rebuff someone’s advances, it gives you the upper hand – and creates an unbalanced relationship. To cope, YOU need to tolerate the anxiety. Being dismissive, defensive or showing pity toward the other person will only create awkward feelings on BOTH sides. So, muster up the courage to tell them that you’re flattered, but not interested. Don’t make up a lame excuse. Over time, your honesty will create a better work environment.
- Your boss is in a foul mood and they launch into a tirade about how your work hasn’t been up to snuff lately. This is awkward because there’s an unspoken code at work that you leave your problems at home and assume a professional role. To handle this, try not to take it personally. Step back, take a breath and try to dissect what’s really going on. This’ll keep you from snapping at your boss and ultimately making the situation worse.
- You volunteer to cook Thanksgiving dinner for 20 people. And as the day approaches, you realize that there’s NO WAY you’re going to pull it off. You need help, but can’t bring yourself to ask. This is awkward because any time we ask for help, it’s like acknowledging that we can’t cope by ourselves. To handle this situation, you need to shift your goals. Focus on what you’re trying to accomplish instead of worrying about your image. Getting what you need sometimes means being vulnerable - but it’s worth it. Experts say people who ask for help do better in life.