- Keep it zipped when someone cuts in front of you at the grocery store. I know it's not fair, but in general, blowing up at a stranger is a bad idea. That comes from the book "The Winner's Way". Not only do you not know how that person will react, but you also don't know the reason behind their rudeness. So instead of fuming, grab a magazine in the checkout line and chill.
- The next scenario: Your boyfriend wants to invite his buddies over to your place every Sunday to watch football on your plasma screen TV. Keep it zipped or let it rip? Let it rip. Expressing your frustration when you first feel it is better for your health and better for the relationship. If you don't your resentment will build and every aspect of your relationship will feel it. But wait until his buddies leave to express yourself.
If you'd like to go further, the book is called "The Winner's Way" by Pam Brill.