- Behrendt says the First Commandment is: Don't see your ex or talk to him for sixty days, no exceptions. It may seem like a long time, but getting over a love is like going through detox. The idea is to get him out of your system and get some control of the situation. Love affects the brain a lot like drugs do. You can actually become addicted to someone. So you need to go cold turkey. Because just seeing someone or hearing their voice can trigger the part of your brain linked to emotional memory. And that's when you start crying every time you hear "your song" or drive by "your place". To avoid all those mini-meltdowns, steer clear of your ex. you're constantly staring at the necklace he gave you last Christmas. Getting rid of emotionally-charged mementos frees you up mentally.
- And the final tip for getting over a breakup: get moving. Experts say exercise is one of the best ways to get over a relationship because it gives you something else to focus on. It also boosts the level of feel-good chemicals in your brain. Exercise has been shown to be as effective as anti-depressants.
Breaking up can feel like the end of the world. But you can survive it, and it'll be a lot easier if you follow the advice of Greg Behrendt. His new book is called It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken. Here are his tips for getting over your ex so you can make room in your heart for "the one":