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Or maybe you're already married to them. But even the person who's perfect for you can push your buttons at times. And when your honey does something that really bugs you, don't just sweep it under the rug.
Here's some advice on how to air your grievances properly, courtesy of Match .com:

• First: If you find yourself back in adolescence when your sweetie sounds just like your mother, take a breath. Make sure it's them you're reacting to and not your own baggage. Or maybe you're just in a bad mood. Be aware of your own issues before you blame it on them.
• If you have a legitimate reason to be upset, treat them as you'd like to be treated. Be honest about what's bothering you, but also be diplomatic and kind. Hopefully, when the tables are turned and they're mad at you, they'll react the same way. Creating an environment of mutually respectful communication is the most important thing.
• Also, when expressing a gripe to your loved one: Take responsibility for your part.
• Saying phrases like "I feel hurt when you come home three hours late" avoids accusatory statements like "You're always late!" - that might make your partner defensive. No one can argue with how you feel.
• Also, talk it out in private. Don't bring others into your relationship troubles. It's disrespectful to them, and your partner.

And here's one more thing to consider when you have a relationship gripe: Don't let molehills become mountains. It's natural to want to avoid conflict, but too many unexpressed gripes can become a major problem. Healthy relationships need upkeep just like healthy bodies, cars, or houses.