Okay guys – here’s a quick quiz. What are the 3 things you should never say to a woman? Yeah, I didn’t know either until I read this article from Men’s Health magazine’s female relationship expert, Sarah Miller. Some of these phrases may seem harmless. But they’re not. Use these at your own risk.
- The first forbidden phrase: “Relax”. It may seem logical for you to tell an irritated woman to “relax”, but it’ll only make her irritation veer into full blown anger. When a woman is expressing herself she feels 100% justified – and by telling her to “relax” you’re, in essence, saying her reaction isn’t justified. You’re denying that there’s a reason to be upset. If you really want a woman to “relax” say this instead, “I understand why you’re upset. Let’s deal with this together.”
- The next thing you should never say to a woman: “It’s up to you” also known as “Whatever you want.” Wrong answer. Relationships are full of decisions – and when you say, “It’s up to you”, what a woman hears is “I don’t care.” But the reason you’re being asked is because the woman in your life is looking for validation. So instead say, “I could definitely do A or B, but I’m not crazy about C. What are you thinking?” This shows you’re listening and that you care, but still gets you out of making the final decision.
- Okay – the third thing a man should never say to a woman: “You knew I was this way when you married me!” Well, maybe she did, but maybe she was hoping that particular trait would change. Or she was so busy loving you that she turned a blind eye. Nevertheless, saying “You knew I was this way when you married me!” is the equivalent of saying, ‘this is how life is and it’ll never improve.’ Bad answer. Instead say, “That frustrates me too and I’m working on it.” Then, actually, work on it.